Restoring back to center
Yesterday, as I was working through some computer issues restoring my computer back to its factory settings because it was lagging and quite honestly had been awhile since I cleaned up and removed old files, I realized how much like computers we are with all the "stuff" we carry around with us.
Self care is a lot like doing a routine diagnostics check and making sure we're not carrying around any outdated information, or holding onto anything that just needs to be trashed or perhaps written over with new programming. Just like a computer may start to lag the more it holds over time, when we hold onto experiences, thoughts or beliefs that no longer serve us, they can cause us to slow down and lag behind from living the life we truly desire.
Today I wanted to share thoughts on what happens when we start to do this self diagnostics, this self check-in, and error messages, warnings and pop ups start taking over. You know, when you finally start to address all the underlying things you've been putting off and avoiding so now it feels so overwhelming. Or perhaps some new things arise that you weren't aware of and now you're needing to take the time to address them.
- First, it's important to honor where you're at. Emotion=energy in motion...let it flow. Feel ALLLLLL the damn feelings. Let them show up however they show without judgement on how you think you "should" be feeling or what you think you "should" be doing.
- Second, don't do it alone. I don't know what it is about being vulnerable that causes so many of us to suffer in silence, there's so much love and support waiting for us if we're willing to open up and say hey! This is what I have going on and this is what I need to get through it. (For more on nurturing yourself and your needs, check out The Yes Project)
- Lastly, sometimes the people that love us the most ARE NOT the ones that give us the most support and they're NOT the ones we need to be sharing our vision, dreams and challenges with. Sometimes they love us so dang much that they don't want us to take risks because they cant stand to see us to "fail", get hurt or disappointed... and perhaps the experience they're wanting to "protect" us from is exactly what we need to move forward and get unstuck.
Just some food for thought for ya! We must learn to put ourselves first and fill our own cups before pouring into others.