What I Wish Every New Coaching Client Knew
I remember when I was at my rock bottom. When the worst possible scenario was no longer something played on repeat in my head like La Macararena Gangnam Style keeping me up at night, it was really real, it was really happening and I truly did not know that I would be able to pull my shit together enough to keep on going.
I remember that dark time in my life vividly and I also remember so desperately wanting someone, anyone, to tell me what to do. I didn't want to make any more decisions. I couldn't. I was so mentally and emotionally exhausted, I had reached maximum capacity and was now in danger of short circuiting.
This is the place many of my clients are in when they come see me. Not all by far, but many.
Seeking permission to take care of themselves once again. Seeking permission to not have it all together nor pretend that they do. To let the unknown, long suppressed emotions and fears come unhinged and spill out all over the teal blue Chesterfield styled chairs in my office, sloppy, snotty nosed, dismantled and dis-shoveled. Permission to say I want to love myself and my life again but I don't know how because everything feels so damn far off track and hard. Incredibly hard.
I welcome it. Because I understand that place very well. I did, after all, spend almost a decade there.
And here's what I wish every new client knew in their darkest, hardest, most uncomfortable moments. And quite honestly, in their best, most embodied, and joyful moments too.
When you check in with yourself and ask "what do I need right now? what do I want right now?" and you wait to listen for the answer... That *IS* self care.
It’s the very essence of how you listen to and love on yourself.
It's human nature for us to want someone to tell us we're 'doing it right.'
For someone to give us a fail-proof plan on how to do it so we don't fuck it up.
We want to know that yes, this is it, this is what it looks and feels like, yes, we're doing it.
Yes, this is how you love yourself. This is how you live your best life. Just do this.
But the truth is, you don't need me or any other Life Coach to give you a gold sticker of approval on what you choose to do to nurture your soul.
A brave space for you to dismantle the layers, a space for you to ask and answer the questions for yourself honestly, perhaps for the first time in your life; maybe.
But approval on your method of self love and validation, absolutely not.